Everyone has their own sexual fantasies. It is normal. Realizing your fantasies by having one night hookup with strangers seems to be a perfect choice. Yes, it is, as long as you find someone who is willing to try that with you. However, for some people, they can be very obsessed with their fantasies. They won’t take no as an answer. They even will force their partner to accept it. That will be too over line.
Ask some sharp questions on the second date
If you hookup with someone through, let’s say, hookup apps, or you meet each other through a common friend, you don’t need to contact the next day. One night hookup requires no commitment. However, if you become regular hookup partner, you will need some boundaries, especially when you see each other outside of the bedroom. At this point, you need to figure out how you should respond to each other. Let’s say, you and your friends meet him and his friends. How would you react? Like strangers or some old-acquaintance? You need to reach an agreement on that. If you want to keep such relationship going, you need to set some more specific rules and agree that this won’t be the last time to discuss it. After all, casual hookup takes some work.
Do not hang around
Like or not, long time tinder hookup may lead to intimacy. If you stay with someone long enough, you will become friends and then become friends who sleep together at night and spend day time together as well. Then bang! The next thing you know is you are planning for Valentine’s gift card. I am not suggesting that you should pick up your pants and rush out once you finish the business. I am just suggesting that try to stay away from intimacy things if you don’t want a relationship, such as eating breakfast together, watching a movie in the sofa for couple of hours. Intimacy and casual hookup might have counteract effect to one another.
No expectations
Most hookup happened in this way: A person walk to the other and ask: Would you like to spend a night together without expectations and commitment? Maybe keep each other company at night for several months until we find someone we really like. I am not saying we shouldn’t be open and direct. It’s just even casual hookup has it’s requirements. It needs absolute and passionate agreement. However, in a casual relationship, someone may never break up with you explicitly. They may never tell you that they don’t want you to stay after things are finished. If they are your friends, you may need to re-define your relationship after that. You may also need to deal with some strange situation, such as what role you will be playing at their birthday party. During the discussion, things can happen out of your expectation, so never expect and ask for anything,